First post

This is the first ever post I put on this blog, or rather an earlier blog I deleted, cos it got just, well a bit too revealing about me ...
I dedicate this to all the male Nikki fans .. a message from the 'Hunky Dory man' ...

Hi, this is my first blog.

Love is a great feeling when reciprocated, otherwise it just hurts. Someone said being in love is a little like being insane, it can drive you to do crazy things if you let yourself become a victim! I guess a lesson to be learned when you find yourself with unrequited love is to become the master of your emotions rather than be the victim of them.

I'd say we all have certain ideals and expectations about a potential partner, both unconcious and concious. So if we come across someone who goes a long way to meeting those ideals - we may find ourselves gettin a crush on them - sort of like the unconcious motivation to go and meet them. But for whatever reason, shyness, etc., or by virtue of circumstance, if we don't approach them the aspiration is frustrated, which makes the crush stronger, a feedback loop occurs that can literally drive you mad ! So the lesson there is - don't sit on it, declare your love and hang the consequences !

So let's say you've declared your love and your potential partner has accepted the possibility of you as a potential partner, and everything's hunky dory - as the relationship develops It may be that the ideals and expectations you had are'nt matched by the reality and what happens ? bonk-bonnngg - disappointment. The crush wears off and you start looking elsewhere, how sad.

The lesson from that could be - give up expectations ! They only lead to disappointment. The secret of 'true' love is in my opinion unconditional acceptance - accepting the other for all their perceived faults as well as their virtues.

I like the idea, somewhere from the eastern philosophies I believe, that you can
only truly achieve happiness when you accept other people unconditionally - warts and all, for in truth they aren't warts at all, merely interpretations and judgements you have decreed as 'this is how it is' and these judgements are highly personal and have in reality nothing to do with the person who is being judged.

But sometimes, for whatever reason, it just doesn't work. and that can be sad and heartbreaking, but that which does not kill you makes you stronger. Take heart in the fact, that as shakespeare said "It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all "

Or maybe I just need to get out more ...

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Easter Festival

Happy Easter to all!

So Easter is supposed to commemorate the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, right? And the tradition is - 'Here comes the big magical bunny rabbit hiding chocolate eggs! Go find 'em kids!' - When you think about it it's a bit bizarre ... I don't see the connection. It comes about because most religous festivals are in fact hijacked festivals from earlier days - Easter is actually the spring equinox where the earlier celebration concerned the renewal of life, hence the eggs, the rabbits come from them being the symbol of fecundity, well they are 'at it' most of the time ...

Speaking of rabbits - In Germany a rabbit breeder managed to breed huge rabbits, and he struck a deal with North Korea to breed the animals there for food production - so a whole bunch of these rabbits was sent over, along with the largest prize winning rabbit, to begin a breeding program - but what happened to them? They ended up on Kim Il Jong's dinner plate at a state banquet! Sounds comical until you realize this is the mentality of the current leadership - 'Geez those rabbits look good! Stuff the people, I wanna eat'em now!' - I should qualify this by saying the North Korean spokesman has denied that this happened, But the question remains, where are the rabbits??